Search Inside Yourself

This week we are beginning the Search Inside Yourself Curriculum. If you missed last weeks email go back and check it out, it explains this really cool work that we will be doing based on the famous mindfulness and emotional intelligence training offered by Google to it's engineers. This week we will be getting an introduction to emotional intelligence. The concept of emotional intelligence was first offered by author Danny Goleman in his book, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. One of the most important messages in the book is that emotional competencies are not innate talents; they are learned abilities. In other words, emotional competencies are something you can deliberately acquire with practice and even more importantly, emotional intelligence lays the groundwork for learning skills that help us create the conditions for strong relationships and our own happiness.

The important skills to build in order to develop emotional intelligence include:

1. Self awareness
2. Self regulation
3. Motivation
4. Empathy
5. Social Skills

This week we will be taking a look at how to strengthen a few of these skills including self evaluation, asking for and accepting criticism, and accepting responsibility for your actions, both positive and negative.

 

Groups Opening in Putnam

 

We are now offering a group in Putnam Connecticut, within an easy drive for Pomfret, Woodstock, Killingly, Thompson, Eastford, Brooklyn, and Hampton. Groups serve children with ADHD, on the Autism Spectrum, anxiety, PDD-NOS, and more. 

Keep Talking and No One Explodes

our ace bomb defusing team

our ace bomb defusing team

Yesterday in high school group we played a really fun game on the virtual reality headset called Keep Talking and No One Explodes. One player uses the headset to describe the bomb he or she is looking at while everyone else shuffles through the 23 page manual to find the information to tell them what to do next. It's a great way to practice teamwork, language processing, and ultimately resilience when the game is over with a bang. 

Hidden Food Rules

Sharing food is a social activity that brings people together, but the way we eat can be an obstacle to making connections. Last night in group we discussed hidden food rules (also known as manners). We had a great discussion about how food is an important part of any social gathering (think meeting for coffee and all of the meals associated with holidays), but once we get together over a meal, the eating should be less distracting than the conversation. Here are a few of the hidden food rules we identified:

 

1. Chew with mouth closed; talk with an empty mouth (this involves carefully following the rhythm of the conversation to know when to take a bite of food and when to wait.)

 

2. Ask for things you need to be passed. This becomes a chance to make eye contact and contact with people in the conversation who you might not have connected with.

 

3. Use utensils as expected. Unexpected behaviors like eating with hands becomes distracting to conversation and be isolating.

 

4. Prioritize conversation. Remember why you are there, and prioritize talking over eating.

Wise Words

There’s no “should” or “should not” when it comes to having feelings. They’re part of who we are and their origins are beyond our control. When we can believe that, we may find it easier to make constructive choices about what to do with those feelings.

—Fred Rogers , The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember