This week we will not be holding group on Tuesday, but we are back on Thursday the 3rd. Tuesday families are welcome to attend. "Resolutions" can be anxiety provoking for many of the kids I see, so instead of setting goals for the new year we will be reflecting on successes from 2018. They don't have to be big, and even what may look like setbacks can be reframed to emphasize the ways in which difficult situations were handled with grace. In fact, it's probably one of the most important skills to be learned!
Based on responses I will not be holding group this Saturday and then we will be closed through the school break (re-opening on the 5th.) Your child is welcome to come to a make up session this Thursday 5-6pm for high school and 6-7 for elementary school.
Good morning! This week we are talking attention spans. Paying attention on purpose to something is important not just for work, but for relationships too! Listen below for more.
Saturday December 9th. Come on in!
No group this Saturday the 25th, back on a regular schedule next week!
Group will not be held this Tuesday because of many kids halloween plans. Kids who normally attend Tuesday are welcome on Thursday. Please let me know if you will be bringing your child on a different day.
How to Talk to Your Child About the Unspeakable
5 Ways to be Proactive
Five ways to be proactive when faced with explaining a tragedy to your child.Read More
When we are working on doing what we know we "should" rather than what feels best in the moment, it can feel as though there are competing voices in our mind. Well, the struggle is real and now we know that different parts of our brain are sending different messages about the right choice to make. The limbic system which we discussed last week and reacts to stimuli with a cascade of reward chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin, while the prefrontal cortex anticipates future rewards and consequences and is capable of delayed gratification.Read More
Optimists are healthier, happier, and more successful than pessimists and there's good news, optimism is a skill you can learn.Read More
The end of the school year is near! For many families this can feel, like the comic above, of escaping one burning building into another one. The routines that you've worked so hard to establish and the relationships your child has formed with peers and teachers are all upended. Here are three tips to ease the transition that you can start thinking about now.Read More
Neurolinguistic programming is a way to change our behavior patterns. It relies on communication between the processes in our brain, the way we use language, and our existing thought patterns. Neurolinguistic programming is based on the understanding that we interact with people and objects around us based on our perception of the world, not some objective external reality.Read More
The limbic system is the system of structures in the brain that manage the chemicals that make us feel happy: dopamine, endorphin, oxytocin, and seratonin. The limbic system evolved throughout our evolutionary history and serves to reinforce survival behaviors by releasing chemicals that make us feel good when we do something that increases our chances of survival.Read More
Tuesday Middle School 5pm: As scheduled
Tuesday Intermediate 6pm: As Scheduled
Thursday Middle School 5pm: Canceled
Thursday Intermediate 6pm: Canceled
Saturday Early Elementary 10am: As Scheduled
Saturday High School 11:15am Canceled
Saturday Elementary 12:30pm: Canceled
Exciting news! Ruth Freeman, a therapist and parenting expert http://peaceathomeparenting.com has offered to do a free web based session to talk about parenting and answer your questions. This is a great opportunity to hear from an expert in the field and get some practical advice without having to change out of sweatpants. Please complete the brief survey below so I can get an idea of how much interest there is. Sorry but this is limited to current and recent Kids Cooperate families only.
Research suggests that people with strong emotional intelligence are more likely to succeed than those with high IQs or even relevant experience in the world of work. Emotional intelligence is also the key to positive and satisfying relationships. And kids with higher emotional intelligence tend to cooperate more. So how can we help our children get stronger in the area of emotions?Read More
Two of the things that many of our kids find challenging are:
1. Knowing when someone is being a good friend to them (not mocking or being a bad influence intentionally).
2. Knowing how to BE a good friend. Offering reciprocal support, initiating get togethers, offering support.
I asked the high school kids about what made a good friend and what to avoid in someone when choosing who to trust. They mentioned:
- Negative all the time
- Down on themselves
- Non reciprocal
- Imbalance in friendship
We will be having a similar discussion in our groups this week. Please encourage your child to share their stories!
Starting this week we will be offering another way to pay for and participate in Kids Cooperate. You can purchase a monthly membership for $120, the cost of three sessions, and then come as many or few times as work for your schedule. Over a year that's potentially twelve free sessions. You will also get access to extra content in three areas that can make the biggest immediate impact on your child's health and happiness.
Respectful Relationships in which you will Learn the essential skills to build a loving relationship with your child based on clear communication, firm boundaries, and mutual respect.
Calm/Confident/Charismatic Child: where you will Learn concrete skills to help your child confidently navigate the complex web of social relationshipsa and
Emotional intelligence to help you Understand emotional intelligence in order to help your child build the skills that will help them make and maintain meaningful relationships.
both membership options include access to our forum in which I and the other kids cooperate facilitators will participate to answer your questions and share advice and support.
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Continuing our discussion on anxiety, this week we explore two techniques from eastern medicine for coping with difficult or intense emotions. Whether these work or not, it's always helpful to audition some new tools for your emotional toolbox, and it's fun to try to look at our inner life from a completely different perspective.
The first technique is from the understanding of hand reflexology from traditional Japanese medicine. It involves using pressure on specific finger joints as a way to alleviate different strong emotions. Whether it works or not, if your child is doing this they are at least taking a moment of pause before a strong reaction. It is also one that can be done discretely.
The second technique is from traditional Chinese medicine and utilizes and tapping technique on the same points used in acupuncture combined with a positive focus phrase. An example of a positive focus phrase is "even though I am worried now, I will be okay."
While neither of these may be the magic wand that tranforms your child's anxiety into confidence, there is value in the self reflection that comes from trying different techniques and seeing how it makes you feel.
See you in group!
We are closed tomorrow, Tuesday. If you would like your child to attend a make up session on Thursday please contact Aaron Weintraub.