Optimists are healthier, happier, and more successful than pessimists and there's good news, optimism is a skill you can learn.Read More
Research suggests that people with strong emotional intelligence are more likely to succeed than those with high IQs or even relevant experience in the world of work. Emotional intelligence is also the key to positive and satisfying relationships. And kids with higher emotional intelligence tend to cooperate more. So how can we help our children get stronger in the area of emotions?Read More
This week in group we will be making honest valentines. This involves talking about how most Valentines day messages are kind of corny platitudes, and recognizing the occasional value in corniness. Then we talk about the catharsis of expressing authentic emotion, and the positive effects it can have on a relationship to either express an honest appreciation or an honest grievance. We will write our own "honest valentines" to someone in our lives where the goal is simply to express an authentic/honest feeling that we have about another person. They can even throw them away after and not give them out, the idea is just to practice expressing a feeling.
This week in group we will be focusing on self regard, one of the cornerstones of emotional intelligence. Self-regard is respecting yourself while understanding and accepting your strengths and weaknesses. A strong sense of self-regard is associated with feelings of inner strength and self-confidence. Healthy self-regard allows us to accept praise as well as hear criticism in a constructive way.
Paradoxically, taking an honest evaluative look at our areas of weakness give us a greater ability to quiet our inner critic and stop comparing ourselves to others or an idealized version of ourselves.
“And a step backward, after making a wrong turn, is a step in the right direction.” – Kurt Vonnegut
This week we are beginning the Search Inside Yourself Curriculum. If you missed last weeks email go back and check it out, it explains this really cool work that we will be doing based on the famous mindfulness and emotional intelligence training offered by Google to it's engineers. This week we will be getting an introduction to emotional intelligence. The concept of emotional intelligence was first offered by author Danny Goleman in his book, Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ. One of the most important messages in the book is that emotional competencies are not innate talents; they are learned abilities. In other words, emotional competencies are something you can deliberately acquire with practice and even more importantly, emotional intelligence lays the groundwork for learning skills that help us create the conditions for strong relationships and our own happiness.
The important skills to build in order to develop emotional intelligence include:
1. Self awareness
2. Self regulation
5. Social Skills
This week we will be taking a look at how to strengthen a few of these skills including self evaluation, asking for and accepting criticism, and accepting responsibility for your actions, both positive and negative.